Sunday 30 October 2011

GD TOPIC - Arrange / love marriage


Arranged marriage is better than love marriage:

The most convincing reason that proves arranged marriages is better than Love marriages would be Statistics! In most cases, couples who had an arranged marriage are more understanding towards each other.
For 
  • In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.
  • In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.
  • It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may often be taken for granted.
  • Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each other’s needs.
  • Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues faster. There is a sense of fear of losing the partner.
  • For some unforeseen reason, the marriage does not work; there are many people who will support more.
In most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.



Against
  • In today’s busy lives no one has the time to understand each other after marriage.
  • Arranged marriage, most of the times works on compromises. In a love marriage they were in love even before the marriage and hence compromises are less.
  • In an arranged marriage, social obligations can get frustrating at times.
Love married couples learn how to become independent since most of the times they are separated and hence are able to tackle their problems.



  • A comfort level has already been developed between the couple.
  • Expectations from parents are less since most of the times decision of marrying is usually initiated by the couple.
Whether it is love or arranged, trust, understanding and commitment is what drives towards a successful marriage.
Well success of BOTH marriages depends on our self basically. If u finds a person whom u can feel comfortable to live with, be happy and secure in their presence then whatever love/arranged our marriage will be successful
            If LOVE marriage we tend to know ab them before itself and then start thinking of getting married. Well Love marriages fail because people tend to find faults in others /lack of understanding. Whatever but there also cases where relationship is maintained in wonderful manner
           In arranged marriage it becomes an obligation to live with the person. Adjust with them thru out our life n parents do help /guide us if therez a problem.  Thatz the major difference
            Well in both cases for a relationship to be healthy Understanding /Love /affection/ adjustment/ Responsibility is necessary ... above all
Parents who don’t agree for love marriage basically want us to be in better position /live happily. Considering /respecting them is also equally important.